Meditation for PeaceA Wife Should Cherish Her HusbandKeep the family in order
Meanwhile, the wife should:1. Keep the family in order;2. Be hospitable and helpful to her husband’s friends and relatives;3. Be faithful to him;4. Take good care of his possessions;5. Be conscientious (never lazy) in all her duties;A wife should keep in mind that a husband wants support. Similar to her own needs for support, a wife needs to do these things because of the same reasons in the previous chapter. These also are parts of love that they should give and share without conditions. Spouses need to encourage and nurture each other’s lives to make their lives thrive. Both the husband and wife should be submissive to each other. Any arguments or disagreements may cause damage or violence in the family.Spouses need to encourage and nurture each other’s lives to make their lives thrive.
Perhaps, we can choose the right person for us by thinking carefully and thoroughly before we will make a decision to marry him or her. So we will not have to be sorry that our single lives contain much more freedom, peace, and joy. Khun Yai Chandra said “Being single is like a free bird. There is no cage to limit life’s freedom. A free bird can fly wherever and whenever it wants without worry. A free bird is not necessarily lonely and does not have to be alone. It also does not mean that the birds which have baby bird(s) will be taken care by their baby birds when they grow up. (If the parent birds are not lucky and have not been good examples or good role models for them to look up to.)”Be hospitable and helpful to her husband’s friends and relatives
There was a friend who told me a story about a girl who walked into a flower garden. The girl tried to choose a perfect flower for her. During the walk, she thought, “This flower is beautiful, but it is smelly. That flower is beautiful, but its petals are hard. Those ones look pretty, but they wilt quickly. These flowers are so pretty, have a nice smell, and last long, but there is too much pollen that spills everywhere.” She walked until the end of the garden and could not find the flower that was both good and right (basically perfect) for her. Moreover, the people who walked after her to the garden picked all the good flowers. And there was no good flower left that the girl could go back to pick. The friend said, ‘The girl is like a woman who always thinks carefully and thoroughly in order to choose the right guy.” “There will be no good guy left,” she said.So we will not have to be sorry that our single lives contain much more freedom, peace, and joy.
However, I told her that I would rather have none of the flowers than picking a flower without extreme and thorough contemplation. This is because I do not want to take the wrong flower that will upset my allergies. And the flower that makes you become allergic later is more tormenting than the one that you are allergic to at first exposure, because your immunity may be diminished or dismissed over the long period of time that you are exposed. Then you may not be well prepared, as you did not know that you would become allergic to it.Kindness and forgiveness never make anyone hurtful.Anyway, for the people who have chosen marriage, and you are allergic or become allergic later, I think you still have to make the best out of it. It is not nice to just pick the flower and then throw it away when you are sick of it. However, if your life is endangered because of it, I suggest that you run away from it or throw it away with kindness. (Sometimes, you have to run for your life.) If you choose to throw it away, you do not have to step on it or jump on it with your madness. Be kind and be forgiving to anyone with whom you connect and even with the ones with whom you have been hurtfully or wrongly connected. Kindness and forgiveness never make anyone hurtful or permanently painful, especially for the one who knows how to contain them or know how to give and forgive.
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A Wife Should Cherish Her Husband
A wife should keep in mind that a husband wants support. Similar to her own needs for support, a wife needs to do these things because of the same reasons in the previous chapter.Dhamma Articles > Meditation Articles and Techniques > Meditation for Peace
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